First off, I am not bitching about being a stay at home mom. I realize I am very fortunate that I am able to be home with my kids. But, let me tell you, personally I would rather have a job outside the home. My husband goes to a job and sits in front of a computer all day. Most days he doesn’t get home until 6:30pm.
I never imagined staying home with my kids; working was important to me. I have been working since I was 12. I started out as a babysitter, then I mowed my Aunt’s lawn and our lawn. Once I was able to legally work, I really got into work. I grew up in a small farm town in Idaho; as in everybody knows everybody and their business. All I wanted to do was leave, so in High School I worked 4 jobs. It wasn’t until my early 20’s that I started to actually work one job.
My Aunt told me something once and it really stuck with me. I have always (and still do) looked up to my aunts. But my Aunt Leigh told me that she puts her kids in daycare so she can come home and love her kids. Meaning, let someone else clean up the poopy diapers, deal with a screaming baby who refuses to eat, and the random meltdowns. She wanted to pick her kids up and actually want to be with her kids. When I became a mother, I TOTALLY got it. I’ve been at this for over 5 years now, and when I’ve had to break up the fighting, cleaning up after I just cleaned, changing the gross diapers, wiping snot, the whining, the crying, there are days I want to sell my kids.
For me, I can’t not work. I need it. I need it to help keep me sane. So how do I manage working from home and my family?
The morning rush:
I begin every morning with making coffee. I mean it’s clearly a necessity. If I was on top of my game the night before – this task would have been programmed to go off at 6:15am. My tiny humans think 6am is the perfect time to get up every morning…including the weekends. We begin the morning (after I get coffee started) with morning cuddles with my son, he’s 5. He likes to come into our room and watch Outrageous Acts of Science and lay in bed with us.
My daughter on the other hand, she’s 4 and she LOVES piggy back rides downstairs. (Sorry dad but ya screwed yourself on that one.) Once downstairs she will request her apple juice, blanket, and whatever show she is into at the moment. Right now it’s Oso on Netflix.
By 7am we are all up, my husband have been caffeinated enough to function and my kids have had their vitamins and we’ve set their breakfast out. Their breakfast will continue to sit as they munch on it throughout the morning. I mean, why sit in a chair to eat when we can run around and grab a bite here and there??
If my kids don’t find their Kindle’s our ship sails pretty smooth in the mornings. If they found them, then there’s a lot of screaming happening. Get dressed! Where’s your shoes? Did you brush your teeth? Joey, where’s your coat?? And this gets repeated….I don’t even know how many times. So, we’ve just let their Kindle’s die. Sorry kids, mommy forgot to charge them.
Oh yeah, I make lunch for my husband and two kids. My husband’s meal is easy. I actually make his every Monday morning and pull them out each day and add what I need. Joey eats the same thing every day too; it’s just a matter if he wants popcorn or veggie straws that day. Katelyn, she will dictate what she wants; white yogurt, peanut butter, and circle crackers.
And we’re off!
My kids go to two different school. Joey starts at 8:45am and Katelyn starts at 9:00am. Katelyn is usually late to school depending on the traffic. Once I’ve got the kids to their designated schools I go home and try to get some work done.
I have from about 9:15am to 11:45am to get some work accomplished. This includes: blog postings, graphics for social media, conference calls.
By Noon the craziness starts up again. Between OT for my son, ballet for my daughter, ABA therapy for my son, speech therapy for my daughter and trying to get into the gym for a workout. I then pick my son up from school just after 3pm and I try to do something fun with them. We go to the Library, the park, play with the neighbor kids, or go swimming.
In between appointments and therapy sessions that’s when I do all my follow ups with my current customers or anyone that has expressed interest. I can do those right from my phone so I try to save that task during the little pockets of free time when we are out and about.
The evening witching hour.
I try to get the kiddos in the house by 5:30 or 6:00pm. This is when I start to make dinner. I actually signed up for this program, it’s $10 a month and she plans out our meals and grocery list. Everything is super easy and has been a huge lifesaver when it comes to dinners. All I have to do is make the kid’s their dinner. We try to have the kids in the bath by 7:30pm at the latest, and because getting my kids to sit and eat a meal is a challenge I try to get them to start dinner as early as possible.
Once the kids are bathed, read to, and passed out, I will do whatever dishes need to be done, some picking up, and then get myself ready for bed. That’s when I like to go through Facebook and respond to posts, create my to do list for the next day.
Most days I feel like I haven’t even sat down. I am exhausted by 9:00 and my brain has shut down, and I wouldn’t trade my day’s for anything, because I love what I do. I love that I can work when I want, I can still be there for my kids, and I am my own boss. I’m not saying every day works out like what I talked about, but most days do.
You have to do what works for you. After a lot of trial and error I have found that this works for me. I also know that I need to be flexible within my day because something always comes up!
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