The alarm clock goes off, you hit the snooze button. And, you hit it again, and again. The last thing you want to do is get up to face the day. You are too overwhelmed by what lies ahead. Your to do list at home and work just gets bigger and bigger. You are so consumed with what you need to get done it’s making you anxious, depressed, and not very fun to be around in general. How can you get things accomplished and still find time for yourself? You need to find balance. Here are a few of my favorite tips on how you can get there.
7 Tips to find balance:
Take a Self Assessment:
Do you remember Al Franken’s skit of Affirmations on Saturday Night Live, Stuart Smalley? He would say, “Because, I’m good enough; I’m smart enough; and dog-gone it, people like me.” Can you say this about yourself? Let me say it to you – You ARE good enough. You ARE smart enough. And, not everyone will like you and that’s okay. The important thing is, do YOU like YOU?
Look in the mirror, what do you want to change about your life? Can you do it? What will it take for you to get there?
Set daily goals for yourself and rank them. Write them down and check them off as you go. It will feel so good to look at your list with a line thru an item.
Make long-term goals, where do you want to see yourself at the end of the month, in 6 months, a year, 3 years? Take risks, if you don’t it will be harder to progress.
Do you have a phone for work and a personal phone? Shut them both down after a certain time, like when you get home. Allow yourself a few hours not to be tied to your phone. Spend time with your family, partner, friends without having your phone there distracting you.
It’s Okay to Say NO:
Do you find your to do list keeps growing because you keep saying yes to things? If you are too overwhelmed, adding something more to your plate isn’t going to make it better. You are just going to get resentful and hate yourself because you will feel like a failure for not getting things done.
Your brother wants you to watch his kids for the night, but you made other plans to work on a big project for work that’s due. While watching your brother’s kids is probably way more fun than work, you are just going to stress out even more because you didn’t get your work project done. Sorry bro, maybe next weekend.
Your friend wants you to go see a movie but you would rather stay home. Go see the movie.
Minimize Toxic Relationships
Do you have a friend that is a Negative Nelly, Debbie Downer, or Drama Rhonda all the time? We all have one. Why surround yourself with people who are always so negative or bring so much drama to their life? Distance yourself from that. If you have a good, happy life you don’t need these kinds of toxic relationships to suck your happiness away. Life is too short to be miserable all the time. Don’t let them bring down your happy high.
Schedule Me Time
This is my favorite. Make time for you. Schedule it into your day if you have to. Go get a facial, a pedicure, read a book; go do something that brings you joy. It doesn’t have to be something that takes all day, but schedule 30 minutes to an hour that are all yours.
When you are going a million miles an hour, stop, take a breath and go hang out with a friend or two. Grab dinner, coffee, go for a walk. You need to have someone who makes you happy that you can talk to and laugh with. It helps break up the monotony of your week.
Little story: When I worked at corporate America in my 20’s I was very blessed to work with a group of people I got along with. We worked at a very strict, stressful company. None of us would have survived there if we didn’t have each other to laugh with during the day, or to go grab drinks with on a Friday. It was how we found our balance. I loved my job but it was stressful and I am still pretty close with several of those people today.
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